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Blog, July 30, 2016: Bernie Sanders Supporters

Posted on July 30, 2016 at 7:55 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


When I was a junior in high school representatives of the U.S. Army came to our school. I don't recall all the details, but they offered rewards of some kind to the boys for taking a written test. (Women were still excluded from active service at that time.) I'm guessing it may have related in some way to recruitment efforts. I was a committed pacifist, opposed viscerally to all things military, and so I was one of three boys in the class to decline the oppor...

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Blog, June 26, 2016 - Black Lives Matter Withdraws From SF Pride

Posted on June 26, 2016 at 4:45 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Three of the grand marshals for today’s San Francisco Pride parade dropped out on Friday. One of them was the Black Lives Matter movement, which had been selected in connection with the chosen theme for this year’s parade: racial and economic justice. The withdrawal was due to the announced increased police presence at this year’s parade.


The Orlando shooting has much of the queer community on edge. A friend rented a dow...

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Blog, May 31, 2016: Gender Fluidity Hits Home

Posted on May 28, 2016 at 6:40 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The world in which I grew up was a much simpler place than the one I inhabit today. It was an almost universally Christian farming community in rural Wisconsin. The men worked to support their families, while the women raised the kids and kept the house. Gay people were rare, exotic, sinful and dangerous people who lived in big cities. The human race consisted of two utterly distinct genders. That's how God planned it, and no one had any reason to doubt God's...

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Blog, March 23, 2016: Thanks, Matthew Breen, That's An Article I Now Don't Have To Write!

Posted on March 23, 2016 at 11:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I enjoy the introductory letters or memos of "Advocate" editor Matthew Breen and "Out" editor Aaron Hicklin in their respective magazines (though Aaron doesn't write one for each edition of "Out").  Both guys understand and champion traditional LGBT concerns and issues on the one hand, but also understand the emerging realities and viewpoints of the new millennial outlook. Matthew's "Editor's Letter" in the new edition of the "Advocate" is a piece I coul...

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Blog, March 12, 2016: Maybe the "Why Me?" Question WILL Fade Away

Posted on March 12, 2016 at 6:45 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


In my last blog entry I addressed the question that an "Advocate" writer contended was asked by all gay people at some point:  "why me?"  While the angst of that question continues to diminish in our new millennial gay world, it was my guess that it would continue to be asked by almost all people who realized - whether suddenly or gradually - that they were markedly different from their peers. Sexuality is a big deal - always has been and always wil...

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Blog, March 3, 2016: The "Why Me" Question

Posted on March 3, 2016 at 8:20 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Now that the intensity of my job and the time spent on it have diminished, I’m catching up on some reading and DVR’d television shows. In the October/November edition of "The Advocate" I came across an article by Brenden Shucart titled "What's the Use Of Being Gay?" He begins as follows:  "'Why am I gay?' The question reverberates through every homosexual at least once in his or her life."


Brenden was wrong about that.  ...

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Blog, January 23, 2016: A Small Reminder Of How Far We've Come

Posted on January 23, 2016 at 3:35 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


It's easy to forget how far we as a community have come in recent years. How different the world was when we grew up and came of age as gay people. It's good to think about that once in awhile, and I had an opportunity to do so a couple of hours ago.


Two years ago this month my friend Scott helped me to buy a new Subaru. The old Prizm had just given up after close to 200,000 miles, and with a forecast of both snow and -20 degree temperatures...

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Blog, January 20, 2016: Can Anyone Be "Queer?"

Posted on January 20, 2016 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Can anyone be "queer?"  


I've been asking myself that question the past two days after seeing a series of stories across the internet announcing "Rowan Blanchard Comes Out As Queer!"  Rowan is the 14-year old star of Disney Channel's "Girl Meets World." In a series of tweets she has identified herself as queer. Cool! I thought, a Disney star being queer can only be a good thing, bringing awareness to a corner of the entertainment...

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Blog, January 11, 2016: Teen Wolf Pisses Me Off!

Posted on January 11, 2016 at 5:10 PM Comments comments (2)

By Dennis Stone


 "Teen Wolf" pisses me off. And it’s not because Danny left or that there are currently no gay relationships on the show. Though I’ll talk about the gay issue later in this post.


 Do you remember how “Teen Wolf” was presented during its first season? A typical teenager in a typical town, with typical relationships and typical problems. Then, there are glowing eyes in the dark, a rustle of brush nearby, a pa...

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Blog, January 3, 2015: "Something Happens When I Hold Him"

Posted on January 3, 2016 at 5:05 PM Comments comments (2)

By Dennis Stone


As I was coming home late last night I heard a song on the radio that I vaguely recognized. Great romantic tune, beautiful voices, the type of song that makes me feel I’m in love even when I’m alone. Then the words of the chorus hit me:


Something happens when I hold him

He keeps my heart from getting broken

When the days get short and the nights get a little bit frozen

We ho...

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Blog, January 1, 2016: Happy New Year!

Posted on January 1, 2016 at 2:20 PM Comments comments (3)

By Dennis Stone


New Year’s Day might be my favorite holiday.


But before I talk about that I have to say a few words about the truly seismic event of 2015: Drake redefining both music and video with the release of “Hotline Bling.” OK, just joking. The really big news was Zayn exiting One Direction, leaving a big hole in my heart.


Well, actually, you know I’m referring to marriage equality becoming the law ...

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Blog December 21, 2015: Writing Again

Posted on December 22, 2015 at 1:00 AM Comments comments (4)

By Dennis Stone


On December 13 I posted my first new article to this site in over a year. And that was the first writing I had done in that time. I’ve had several great ideas to write about since then, and several times I planned to write, but it just never happened. After awhile a sort of moat went up around my creativity and my muse and my initiative, confining me to a routine world of work and mundanity. (Yes, that’s a real word! I looked it up to be sure.) ...

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Blog, Thanksgiving 2014

Posted on November 28, 2014 at 2:55 AM Comments comments (4)

Last year at Thanksgiving I wrote a long piece about listening to the 18-minute song "Alice's Restaurant" by Arlo Guthrie, recorded in the late 60s. The song has become something of aThanksgiving tradition on many radio stations because the story told began on Thanksgiving. The song was playing as I drove to my brother's house for Thanksgiving dinner last year, and I wondered if they would bleep the word "faggots" at the end. I was pleased when they did NOT censor it. Read the ...

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Blog, November 17, 2014: What the Liberals Are Missing About the Elections

Posted on November 17, 2014 at 4:05 PM Comments comments (0)

The recent U.S. elections were a disaster for the Democratic party, and therefore for those of us with progressaive ideals. There has been a lot of talk about why the country moved in that direction, and what it means for the future. But almost all of these post mortems have been either essentially wrong or inconsequential. We are missing the biggest factor, and if we continue to miss it we will continue to shoot ourselves in the foot politically. 


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Blog, November 9, 2014: A Simple Way For SNL To Get Out Of Its Rut

Posted on November 10, 2014 at 12:10 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm trying to get back to writing for the site regularly, and so I have to get to where I can just write things off the top of my head occasionally. So here's an inconsequential piece of fluff!


I watched last night's Saturday Night Live rerun, with guest host Bill Hader. My generalized view of the show is that the cast is quite good, but the writing often comes up short, and the show often feels stale and formulaic. The Hader episode was ...

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Three New Millennial Gay Moments, Featuring the [Boy?] Band "Rixton"

Posted on July 21, 2014 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (5)

By Dennis Stone


A couple of nights ago I was aimlessly flipping TV channels, and I came upon a show on Palladium called "MTV's New Artists To Watch." I'm always up for that sort of thing, so I hung around to see if I could discover a great new band or singer. The band playing was called "Rixton," and I had never heard of them. (Though when I looked into them further I realized I had many times heard their catchy single, "Me And My Broken ...

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Stefon and Larry Kramer!

Posted on May 22, 2014 at 9:55 PM Comments comments (3)

By Dennis Stone


Now THERE'S a pairing you wouldn't expect to see!


I originally wasn't planning to make a connection between them. I'm trying to get in the habit of writing more "blog posts" as opposed to full fledged articles, and I was planning to write a post that briefly mentioned each of them in totally separate contexts. But the more I think about it ...

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We Have More Readers Than Ever!

Posted on May 19, 2014 at 11:15 PM Comments comments (1)

About a month ago I essentially put the "New Millennial Gay Experience" into standby mode while I caught up on life, helped my best friend move, worked through a long list of recorded TV shows, and fought a bad cold that took my voice for a few days. I didn't even check the readership statistics once during that period. I just assumed readership would dwindle to essentially nothing since there was nothing new to read. 


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My Evening With Ulysses

Posted on May 17, 2014 at 9:25 PM Comments comments (3)

By Dennis Stone


No, not THAT kind of evening!


Readers of AfterElton/TheBacklot are likely acquainted with Ulysses Grant Dietz - museum curator, published writer, great-great-grandson of President Ulysses S. Grant. He and I "met" when we were both regular commenters on AfterElton, and he has written a couple of wonderful pieces for this site.


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I Utterly Don't Care If He's Gay

Posted on March 31, 2014 at 4:15 PM Comments comments (3)

Sam Smith was the musical guest on "Saturday Night Live" this week, and his performance floored me. His style is not the sort of thing I usually like, but his singing was so stunningly flawless that I watched in rapt amazement. It almost instantly reminded me of when  Adele appeared on SNL in 2008. The similarities are amazing. They are both from England, both became stars there before coming to the U.S., both were on SNL in the same year that their first album was issued ...

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