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The Gay Media We Need (But Have Never Had)

Posted on December 13, 2017 at 6:20 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I've complained before on this site about how one-dimensional gay media is. To read gay sites and gay magazines you would think that there is only one way for "good" gays to think, and that the community overwhelmingly subscribes to that worldview. I've whimsically referred to gay people owning and constantly referencing the "Little Black Book Of Proper Gay Thought." Yes, people know there are gay conservatives out there, and that a few even support Donald Tr...

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The Thorny Sexual Assault Case Of George Takei

Posted on November 25, 2017 at 7:50 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

Every once in awhile something happens that changes society forever. The 9-11 attacks represent one such example. The Supreme Court decision legalizing gay marriage is another. The avalanche of sexual harassment claims following the Harvey Weinstein accusations is the most recent example. American society is significantly different today than it was just two months ago.

 

This change primarily affects the relationship between men and women, ...

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The Kids Are Alright

Posted on November 20, 2017 at 7:00 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


This was not a conversation I was expecting to have….


The fourteen year old girl sat facing me, on the other side of a small, portable fire pit that added some heat to an uncharacteristically cool fall evening. Her father, a good friend I hadn’t seen for awhile, sat next to me. We were catching up on our lives since we had last seen each other, and I asked Emily how her summer had gone. She said she had broken up with her boyfrie...

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Disney's First Gay Kid Reflects Today's Family Values

Posted on October 29, 2017 at 7:45 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


On July 28 I posted an article talking about the likelihood that Cyrus Goodman, a character on Disney's popular "Andi Mack" series, would become the network's first gay kid. It happened in the first episode of the second season (Friday, October 27). I was a bit surprised that it happened so fast; I had thought it likely that Cyrus' realization ...

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The Good News In Trump's Military Ban

Posted on August 3, 2017 at 10:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The LGBTQ community reacted with unified outrage last week when President Trump announced that transgender people will no longer be allowed to serve in the U.S. military. In keeping with how all recent presidents have announced major policy changes, he informed the world of the new ban through a series of tweets. After all, as he recently told a crowd, he “can be more presidential than any president that’s ever held this office,” with the ex...

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Disney Gets a Middle School Gay Kid?

Posted on July 28, 2017 at 12:00 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Gay people in movies or on TV are no longer either unusual or controversial. Gay kids, on the other hand….

 

One of the last places you’d expect to see an unequivocally gay middle school kid would be the Disney Channel. Historically squeaky clean, aware that it’s viewership demographic includes very young kids, it has produced a multitude of kid-centric sitcoms that try to be ethnically diverse but rarely go anywhere remotel...

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The Thought-Provoking Journey Of Football Player Ryan O'Callaghan

Posted on July 12, 2017 at 8:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Professional sports is one of the few remaining arenas where someone’s coming out is still noteworthy. It amazes me how many gay people haven’t realized it yet, but people coming out is no longer a big deal in much of the straight world. Entertainment people are coming out all the time, and very little notice is taken. Do you remember the headlines when George Takei and Lance Bass came out? If they came out today there would be brief mentions in t...

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You Don't Need An Einstein To Split the Acronym

Posted on June 22, 2017 at 1:25 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


When I was a kid we were the gay community. The world was much simpler then. It was overwhelmingly made up of straight people - the ones who had families and lived the “normal” life. Then there was a tiny band of gay people - outcasts, rebels, libertines, sinners, freedom fighters - who existed in the shadows but were increasingly making their presence known. “Bisexuals” were gay people not yet able to acknowledge their true id...

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What Do Gay Activists, the Alt-Right, the Antifa, and ISIS Have In Common?

Posted on June 14, 2017 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (1)

By Dennis Stone


How’s that for a provocative title? If this were a mainstream site with actual readership that title would imply clickbait, a shameless attempt to entice readers to check out the story. Alas, I’m so far off the media map that the term “clickbait” has no meaning. This is a serious piece, and those four groups share an important trait that tells us a lot about human nature. The most basic question one can ask is this: what is th...

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It's Not Assimilation

Posted on June 11, 2017 at 3:35 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Not all gay people liked Queer As Folk, the seminal Showtime series that ran from 2000 to 2005, but I loved every minute of it. There were a couple of vital dynamics that spanned the five season existence of the show. The most obvious was that sex is good, sex is fun, and more sex is better than less.


A second dynamic was the idea of gay people remaining unique, a distinct and separate community in virtual opposition to mains...

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Those Were the Days

Posted on June 1, 2017 at 10:40 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The church is full, the guests waiting expectantly for the wedding party. The music starts, played by the New Directions band, and the crowd turns around, looking down the aisle. There is Finn Hudson, handsome in a suit. He straightens his tie, dances down the aisle, and sings: "It's a beautiful night, we're looking for something dumb to do." He twirls, goes to a knee, and points down the aisle with both hands. "Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you." ...

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Michelangelo Signorile Goes Off the Rails

Posted on May 20, 2017 at 8:40 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I’m damn tired of beginning articles with the disclaimer that I’m a lifelong progressive, that I strongly supported both Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders, and that I think Donald Trump is woefully unprepared and unsuited for the presidency. But I’m equally damn tired of being dumbfounded by the anti-intellectual irrationality and counterproductive writings and actions of my left-wing compatriots.


The latest example of wha...

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Re-Evaluating the Supposed Homophobia Of "Silence Of the Lambs"

Posted on May 4, 2017 at 7:00 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


"Silence Of the Lambs" director Jonathan Demme died recently, which generated multiple stories about his most famous movie. It was known for winning five Academy Awards, including all five of the major categories. It was known for its riveting performances by Anthony Hopkins and Jodie Foster. And it was known for generating a huge backlash from the LGBT community.  GLAAD issued a strong denunciation. Gay people, led by Queer Nation and ACT-UP, protested ...

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The World Is Not As Dark As Gay Media Wants You To Believe

Posted on April 18, 2017 at 8:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Do you read gay media? If you're reading this obscure little site of mine then I'm guessing you do. Have you noticed the prime characteristic of all of these sites (apart from mine!)? The stories are overwhelmingly negative, focusing on all the dark and oppressive aspects of the queer experience. Stories about the crazy things obscure rightwingers say; repetitive pieces about how evil Trump is and how awful and hateful his America has become; stories exemplif...

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What's Your Sexual Preference?

Posted on April 8, 2017 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Wait, what??? Sexual preference??? What am I thinking? I can’t use that term. It indicates that sexuality is a choice, as opposed to an innate, unchangeable orientation.


Over the years we’ve come to agree that “sexual preference” is a term used by the ignorant or the willfully homophobic. However, as the march of cultural evolution continues, making gay people ever more mainstream and accepted, and as my own outlook...

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Leave the Door Open

Posted on March 21, 2017 at 11:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

One of the scariest aspects of being gay for many people is the need and/or desire to come out to one’s family. That is true at any age, but especially so for young people not yet well established on their own. Even in today’s relatively enlightened world the fear of rejection from the people who dominated one’s life for so long, the people who should be the ultimate and safest refuge, can be intense. And the younger a person is, the more d...

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Advice To Rachel Maddow

Posted on March 16, 2017 at 7:45 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

Rachel, Rachel, Rachel….

 

I love Rachel Maddow, and this week my buddy (I can call her that because every time I watch her show we hit it off so well) was in the news herself in a big way. I assume everyone knows the basic story, but good journalism requires a summary. On Tuesday she tweeted: “BREAKING: We’ve got Trump tax returns. Tonight, 9pm ET.” Understandably, lots of folks went into a tizzy. This was huge news...

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We Progressives Are Kicking Ourselves In the Teeth

Posted on March 11, 2017 at 10:20 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I’ve considered myself a progressive all my life. That is based on the philosophy and the political and social viewpoints that have animated my understanding of the world around me. I think for myself, so I’m not simply parroting the demands of the “Little Black Book Of Proper Progressive Thought.” In a few ways I diverge from the little black book, but overall my outlook has clearly been progressive.


Recently, howeve...

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Is Tom Cruise Gay? That's the Wrong Question

Posted on March 6, 2017 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (1)

By Dennis Stone


Is Tom Cruise gay? How about John Travolta or Jake Gyllenhaal? Was Abraham Lincoln as gay as Larry Kramer assumes? How about Napoleon? William Shakespeare?


We’ve been asking these questions for a long time, and continue to do so. There is one big problem with these inquiries and these debates, however. They assume that sexuality is a binary condition. If Tom Cruise is just pretending to be straight then the rumors are...

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No Room For Writers Not At the Poles

Posted on February 11, 2017 at 1:10 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I haven’t posted any pieces here recently, but I’ve had several great ideas. My primary goal in my writing over the past couple of months has been to try to produce output that can be published by mainstream sites or magazines. At the same time I want to communicate ideas that are a bit outside of the mainstream. After all, how many more pieces do we need decrying how awful Trump is, or highlighting the latest inanities of the far right wing goof...

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