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The World Is Not As Dark As Gay Media Wants You To Believe

Posted on April 18, 2017 at 8:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Do you read gay media? If you're reading this obscure little site of mine then I'm guessing you do. Have you noticed the prime characteristic of all of these sites (apart from mine!)? The stories are overwhelmingly negative, focusing on all the dark and oppressive aspects of the queer experience. Stories about the crazy things obscure rightwingers say; repetitive pieces about how evil Trump is and how awful and hateful his America has become; stories exemplif...

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What's Your Sexual Preference?

Posted on April 8, 2017 at 4:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Wait, what??? Sexual preference??? What am I thinking? I can’t use that term. It indicates that sexuality is a choice, as opposed to an innate, unchangeable orientation.


Over the years we’ve come to agree that “sexual preference” is a term used by the ignorant or the willfully homophobic. However, as the march of cultural evolution continues, making gay people ever more mainstream and accepted, and as my own outlook...

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Leave the Door Open

Posted on March 21, 2017 at 11:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

One of the scariest aspects of being gay for many people is the need and/or desire to come out to one’s family. That is true at any age, but especially so for young people not yet well established on their own. Even in today’s relatively enlightened world the fear of rejection from the people who dominated one’s life for so long, the people who should be the ultimate and safest refuge, can be intense. And the younger a person is, the more d...

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Advice To Rachel Maddow

Posted on March 16, 2017 at 7:45 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

Rachel, Rachel, Rachel….

 

I love Rachel Maddow, and this week my buddy (I can call her that because every time I watch her show we hit it off so well) was in the news herself in a big way. I assume everyone knows the basic story, but good journalism requires a summary. On Tuesday she tweeted: “BREAKING: We’ve got Trump tax returns. Tonight, 9pm ET.” Understandably, lots of folks went into a tizzy. This was huge news...

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We Progressives Are Kicking Ourselves In the Teeth

Posted on March 11, 2017 at 10:20 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I’ve considered myself a progressive all my life. That is based on the philosophy and the political and social viewpoints that have animated my understanding of the world around me. I think for myself, so I’m not simply parroting the demands of the “Little Black Book Of Proper Progressive Thought.” In a few ways I diverge from the little black book, but overall my outlook has clearly been progressive.


Recently, howeve...

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Is Tom Cruise Gay? That's the Wrong Question

Posted on March 6, 2017 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Is Tom Cruise gay? How about John Travolta or Jake Gyllenhaal? Was Abraham Lincoln as gay as Larry Kramer assumes? How about Napoleon? William Shakespeare?


We’ve been asking these questions for a long time, and continue to do so. There is one big problem with these inquiries and these debates, however. They assume that sexuality is a binary condition. If Tom Cruise is just pretending to be straight then the rumors are...

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No Room For Writers Not At the Poles

Posted on February 11, 2017 at 1:10 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I haven’t posted any pieces here recently, but I’ve had several great ideas. My primary goal in my writing over the past couple of months has been to try to produce output that can be published by mainstream sites or magazines. At the same time I want to communicate ideas that are a bit outside of the mainstream. After all, how many more pieces do we need decrying how awful Trump is, or highlighting the latest inanities of the far right wing goof...

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Did LGBTQ Nation Quietly Cancel Their Milo Interview?

Posted on January 23, 2017 at 10:20 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


As I discussed in a recent piece LGBTQ Nation earlier this month named controversial Breitbart tech editor Milo Yiannopoulos it's 2016 "Man Of the Year." The "honor" resulted from a vote of readers that was obviously hijacked by social media campaigns promoted by Milo himself, along with Breitbart and others. The announcement was made on January 5, and included the promise of an in-depth interview with Milo to appear the following week...

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The Ascent Of the New Millennial Gay Experience Will Be Delayed

Posted on January 23, 2017 at 9:15 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

I first recognized the “new millennial gay experience” as a significant development in gay life about six or seven years ago. To understand fully what that is you can go to our “About Us” page. But in brief it means a gay life where our sexual identity is just one part of our identity; it doesn’t define us, as it did for most gay people up to this point. Further, societal and cultural developments make it possible for many if no...

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Milo Yiannopoulos Is LGBTQ Nation's "Person Of the Year"

Posted on January 9, 2017 at 10:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

A funny thing happened at “LGBTQ Nation” last week. The long time gay site wanted to have its readers vote for a “Person Of the Year,” analogous to what “Time Magazine” has done for decades. The editorial team selected ten nominees, and then opened the voting to the public. In addition to expected nominees like the Pulse shooting victims, Ellen Degeneres, the transgender community, etc., were three surprising names: Vice-...

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Stepping Back and Reconsidering the Trump Victory

Posted on December 13, 2016 at 1:10 AM Comments comments (1)

By Dennis Stone


This is the most difficult piece I’ve ever written. In fact, a significant part of me doesn’t want to write it at all. I put it off for three weeks so I could think through again and again my feelings, and ponder thoughtfully the complexities that increase the more I think. I’ve now been sitting here in a coffeeshop for two hours, reading news story after news story on my laptop, all the while telling myself it’s time to start writing....

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Site Format Change

Posted on December 6, 2016 at 5:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

People who come back to this site with some regularity to see what new outrageous thoughts I’ve had have obviously noticed that I haven’t posted anything for a month. My last post was the day before the election, and the election is the cause of my lack of subsequent activity. There are two reasons. First, the surprising Trump victory threw all of our preconceptions and expectations out the window, and made any other queer subject seem small in ...

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Many (Most?) Of Us Are NOT Outsiders

Posted on November 8, 2016 at 12:20 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

Gay people have historically had the self-perception of being society’s outsiders. It’s not hard to understand why. Until the 1970s gay people were considered by all psychological organizations to be mentally ill. In only one state in the U.S. was sodomy legal prior to the 1970s, and it remained illegal in fourteen states until the Supreme Court’s “Lawrence v Texas” ruling in 2003. Until recent years few people came out at work,...

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Finally, An Intelligent Critique Of Out's Yiannopoulos Profile (Though It Still Doesn't Hold Up)

Posted on November 5, 2016 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

(This is the third part of what I think will end up being a four part series about the big "Out" kerfuffle.)

 

I’m STILL thinking about the Milo Yiannopoulos profile in “Out”. This is my third piece on the subject. My first article defended the profile (though certainly not the subject), and I was almost alone in my defense. Most of the attacks, via Twitter and digital media, struck me as vacuous and poorly thought out, a sort of mindle...

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12-Year Old New Millennial Actor

Posted on November 3, 2016 at 12:00 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Several people have suggested that I watch the Netflix series “Stranger Things,” and I’ve put it near the top of my watch list. I had no idea there was any possible gay connection until recently, when I read a story that 12-year old actor Noah Schnapp had made an Instagram post addressing the social media debate about his character’s sexual orientation.


Noah plays Will Byers on the show, an outsider who is the subject...

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One Thing Chadwick Moore Could Have Done To Make His Profile Of Milo Yiannopoulos More Flame Retardant

Posted on October 29, 2016 at 11:15 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

For some reason my mind keeps returning to the profile of Milo Yiannopoulos that Chadwick Moore wrote for “Out” magazine. As anyone reading this knows, the profile generated a virtual firestorm of almost universal criticism from the queer community. (The only other voice I’ve come upon that countered the mob mentality was editor Berlin Sylvestre in “OutFront.”)  Perhaps part of my fixation is the near unanimity with which m...

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The Backlash Against "Out" For the Milo Yiannopolous Profile Is Dangerous

Posted on October 26, 2016 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


When I received my latest issue of “Out” magazine I was delighted to see a profile of gay alt-right provocateur Milo Yiannopolous. I was delighted not because I agree with him or admire him - as a lifelong progressive I am adamantly opposed to most of what he espouses - but because Milo has become increasingly prominent in the cultural discourse, and because his gayness seems so out of place in the historically homophobic far right wing. A...

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Noah Galvin's Redemption: Is It "Real"?

Posted on October 16, 2016 at 12:10 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

I fell in love with Noah Galvin just a little bit when his ABC show “The Real O’Neals” premiered early in 2016. Noah, of course is the 22-year old out actor who portrays gay teenager Kenny on the show, which kicked off its second season this past Tuesday. I assumed Noah was like Kenny: thin, cute, sensitive, self-deprecating, a bit shy but bold at the same time, proud of his identity but not over-reactive to the imperfect straight people ...

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"The Advocate" Is Completely Wrong About Orlando

Posted on October 12, 2016 at 11:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

People see what they want to see, and believe what they want to believe. Psychologists have been telling us that for a long time. The phenomenon is even more pronounced for people with strong political, philosophical or religious viewpoints. I see it with gay advocates almost as much as I see it for strongly religious people.

 

A case in point is “Advocate” editor Matthew Breen’s “Editor’s Letter” in the A...

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The Dream Is Dead, Long Live the Dream

Posted on October 4, 2016 at 10:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


When I was a kid I wanted to become famous through my writing. I dreamed of writing the great American novel, and becoming a respected author like the two heroes of my youth, Hermann Hesse and Aldous Huxley. I would write things that would awe people and open up new ways of seeing the world. Being famous for my words was a big part of the dream. (One might as well dream big!)


After college, life got in the way of my dream, ex...

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