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I Admire the Log Cabin Republicans (Gasp!)

Posted on September 23, 2016 at 11:40 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


This piece will piss off a lot of people. (Dan Savage will certainly be removing me from his Christmas card list.) However, it begins in a comfortable and reassuring way.


I’ve been a progressive since I discovered politics when I was fifteen years old. Even before I realized I was gay I identified with the poor, the hurting, and the marginalized, and I wanted to use the tool of politics to make the world a better place ...

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Changing the "About Us" Page

Posted on September 21, 2016 at 7:00 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


 

Back in this site’s heyday I checked the readership statistics frequently. In the early days readership numbers were gratifying. We were publishing new pieces almost every day, comments were rather frequent, and the emotional rewards were significant. Eventually we had five writers working for the site. It was all new and exciting.


 

Good things often don’t last, however. Such is life. Eventually the press...

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The Groupthink Of Gay Media

Posted on September 19, 2016 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Readers of this site probably have some difficulty figuring out the difference between the pieces that end up in the Commentary or Blog sections. That's because so far I haven't used the Blog section as I want to and should. In theory the Blog is for ramblings and stray thoughts, while Commentary is for more "big picture" pieces that deal - hopefully in a better written way! - with issues for which I've done thought and research. What I often find, though, is...

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Let's Stop Talking and Thinking About Microagressions

Posted on September 16, 2016 at 9:35 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

A female co-worker once told me it was too bad I was gay because otherwise she’d like to go out with me.


A long time friend extolled the virtues of Rick Santorum as a potential president.


I’ve been told that it must be nice to not have to support a family because it gives me so much more disposable income.


I have to come out over and over again because new acquaintances subc...

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Responding To My Favorite Canadian Reader

Posted on September 12, 2016 at 12:15 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

One of our original readers is a Canadian guy using one of my favorite monikers: Hue-Man. He commented on my blog post of August 29 and made reference to a recent Canadian poll/study about the LGBT experience in the workplace. A story about the study can be found here. The poll raises several issues I...

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What My Dream Told Me

Posted on August 29, 2016 at 8:00 PM Comments comments (3)

By Dennis Stone

 

Dreams sometimes reveal a lot about a person’s inner being, and occasionally the reveal is a surprise.

 

I recall a dream I had a few years ago about a friend who is straight. I was attracted to him, but never had thoughts about turning him my way. Lusting after straight guys is a great way to make yourself disappointed and unhappy, so I never do it. When I’m attracted to a straight guy I recognize it, put it in the “Unatta...

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Ballad Of the Fagmobile

Posted on August 25, 2016 at 8:05 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

“Fag!”

 

The slur was yelled at my friend Sean as he drove his roadster through town one hot summer day.

 

“Hey faggot!”

 

A second slur later the same day, unusual for our generally accepting city. When he told me about it later he was not bothered at all. That didn’t surprise me since Sean has always been self confident, and has been totally comfortable with his sexuality ...

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Stereotypes Go Mainstream

Posted on August 20, 2016 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone

 

I like Tim Gunn. He has always come across to me as a guy who is totally confident in his sexuality, and who would be a fun guy to hang out with. He has a good sense of humor, doesn’t take himself too seriously, and is classy without being uptight.

 

He is also a walking stereotype. He has a quintessential gay voice, he has gay mannerisms, and his entire being just exudes a gay sensibility. Some would call him a big ol’ queen. A...

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"Male Presenting" As a Routine Descriptor?

Posted on August 15, 2016 at 12:15 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


You are probably aware of the Nextdoor social networking service, which allows people within a neighborhood or nearby neighborhoods to communicate via public posts that are only visible to people in the area. I find it exceedingly useful in allowing me to keep up with crimes, lost dogs, FREE STUFF!, and any issues of interest within the neighborhood.


Recently a member posted a story of a traffic encounter she witnessed in front of her home b...

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I Wrote A Poem!

Posted on August 5, 2016 at 1:50 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Since this site has evolved, or, perhaps more accurately, devolved into my own personal playground I feel justified in posting a poem I wrote. The poem has nothing to do with being gay, apart from the fact that a gay man wrote it, and in a way I guess that's in keeping with the underlying ethos of the site.  This reflects my spiritual and deeply personal side, that part of me that comes out in the deep dead of night, or in the middle of a thick wood surr...

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Think Different

Posted on August 3, 2016 at 7:50 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Don't follow the crowd.  Think different.  Or, put another way, think for yourself.


I watched the movie "Steve Jobs" last night.  The last set of scenes was  built around the 1998 launch of the iMac. As Jobs talked with other characters on stage the viewer could see snippets of the iconic "Think Different" ad campaign, which featured images of innovators such as Albert Einstein, Bob Dylan, Gandhi, Thomas Edison, and Muham...

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The Social Evolution Continues....

Posted on July 27, 2016 at 8:30 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I've been a political junkie since I was 14 years old. Every four years I watch most of both the Democratic and Republican conventions. And I enjoy myself!  And so last week I spent far too much time with Donald Trump.  But, despite my distaste for Trump and my disagreement with most Republican thinking, when it was over I felt palpably reminded of the incredible progress the gay community has made over the past twenty years or so.  This week I...

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Bad News: We Can't Prevent Mass Killings

Posted on July 19, 2016 at 6:55 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The piece below was originally part of my longer essay "Three Truths From Orlando That Many Are Getting Wrong."  It was a fourth truth, but the essay was too long, and so I excised this section. The attack in Nice, France buttresses the basic thesis that there is really nothing we can do to stop mass killings, especially those related to political or religious terrorism. France has strict gun control laws, but the Nice killer had multiple guns. Further, ...

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We Need Another Martin Luther King, Jr.

Posted on July 14, 2016 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The following words of Martin Luther King, Jr. could well have been said this week as a reaction to the racial bloodshed and animosity we’ve seen in the past few days.


“The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy, instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. ...

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Three Truths From Orlando That Many Are Getting Wrong - And One Big Mystery

Posted on July 11, 2016 at 2:10 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


The essential reality of politics and psychology in today’s America can be summed up in one short sentence: people believe what they want to believe. Those of us who call ourselves progressive tend to believe that sentence, but only about those on the right side of the political spectrum. Global warming is a classic case. But we are prone to it as well. In fact, as the 21st century evolves I am beginning to think we are almost equally guilty.

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Larry Wilmore and Reclaiming the N-Word

Posted on May 15, 2016 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


Time marches on, and things change.  Go back in your mind ten years to the spring of 2006.  People were starting to think about the 2008 presidential race, and there were hopes that the country could possibly be ready for a woman president. After that, who knows? Maybe even a black president would be possible some day! Gay people were excited that a couple of years earlier Massachusetts had become the first state with marriage equality, and there we...

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"The Real O'Neals," Episode 7: The Grandma From Hell

Posted on April 22, 2016 at 6:15 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I've become a big fan of "The Real O'Neals" on ABC, the first new comedy I've fallen in love with for some time.  Partly that's because of how adorable Noah Galvin is (as gay 16-year old Kenny), partly it's because of the occasionally off-the-wall, surreal humor, partly it's because of the relatable family dynamic, and partly it's because of how smart the show is in handling Kenny's gayness.  The gay stereotypes come fast and furiously, but they wor...

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March 18, 2016: Odds and Ends

Posted on March 18, 2016 at 9:35 PM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


1. As I exited the local public library a couple of days ago I stopped to pick up the latest copy of "Lavender," the free Minneapolis/St. Paul gay magazine.  It's one of several free local magazines offered in the entryways of most local libraries.  On top of the pile was a sheet of white paper enclosed in a clear plastic sleeve.  On the sheet, in large letters, was a Bible verse from Isaiah relating to repentance and getting right with God. Mo...

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Was the Premiere Of "Glee" the Beginning Of the New Millennial Gay Experience?

Posted on February 21, 2016 at 12:05 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


So when did disco die as a meaningful musical expression? What event marks the beginning of the internet age? When did Madonna become irrelevant? Great minds have pondered and argued these and other milestone issues. People like to point to specific beginnings and endings of important cultural movements.


As a history buff who believ...

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A Football Player Comes Out in the New Millennial Gay World

Posted on February 12, 2016 at 12:05 AM Comments comments (0)

By Dennis Stone


I’ve noticed that the coming out process is evolving as the new millennial gay world evolves. I was reminded of that yesterday when I learned that a college football player from my hometown Minnesota Gophers had just come out publicly via a self-penned story on “Outsports.” Luke McAvoy played for the Gophers from 2011-2014, and had come out to his teammates in February 2014. There are several aspects of this story that are quite remarkable, ...

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